Break Up to Make Up

When it comes to sex, there are a variety of scenarios and visions that may come to mind. With sex, people usually have a preference for this work of art, especially when you are physically attracted to someone, in a relationship or both. One of the popular topics on this physical notion is make up sex vs. break up sex. Having two different meanings and similar actions, they are two of the most popular and disputable versions of sex.

If the chemistry between two people is strong, the physical attraction can be looked upon as an electrifying movement. Make up sex can arouse from a disagreement, dispute or miscommunication between a couple but most would say it is a hot and heavy form of sex. In a unique way, the passion behind the disagreement draws you closer,  bringing the inner essence of both parties to a forefront. This action allows the gates of emotion to take over. Emotions are heightened to such a great level, when they are implied and placed in tune with the person you love, make-up sex or a passionate love session awaits you. Unlike break-up sex, more than likely you are not breaking up with a person over a disagreement or an argument.

The approach to break-up sex is slightly different. In this form of sex there can be numerous reasons for the different actions taking place. Some people say break-up sex is looked upon as a trap, a lasting memory or just the right thing to do at the moment. Before breaking up, the sex that takes place is a result of a last resort or option left between a failing relationship. Since the relationship itself is not working out, the next best thing your emotions are connected to may be the physical attributes of the relationship. Unlike make-up sex once you declare a break-up, there is no relationship to come back to unless there is a change of heart during the act of break-up sex. Even with a change of heart the relationship may not be in the strongest state because the lasting impression that is left is solely based on a heightened physical encounter.

Busy Bee... But Too Busy for You??

Relationships require hard work! There's always that one couple that seems "perfect" to everyone- doesn't get into arguments, both lead seemingly "perfect" lives, amazing connection!

However, I honestly believe that no matter what, relationships take a lot of hard work to keep one going. Both partners in the relationship need to put in effort, not one over the other. Sometimes one may feel that he or she is giving more in the relationship but that hopefully is not the real case with the relationship. Otherwise, it may be time for a talk.

Another scenario: Peter is currently immersed in his life: school, work, sports, social life. His girlfriend, Mary, currently feels that she is being a bit left out of his life. She understands that Peter is busy and the fact that they both go to different schools doesn't really help because of the short distance. However, she feels that he squeezes her in his schedule whenever it is convenient for him rather than for the both of them. She just wants him to put aside a few minutes at the beginning or end of the day so they can talk about their day or anything... any reassurance that their relationship and connection is still the same. She doesn't know whether or not to express this to him or just to hide her feelings and stick it out. What should she do?

My personal opinion is that she should talk to Peter about it! I have been through this certain experience before and if I had hid my feelings, I might have just bottled it up until one day it burst out and made the situation worse than I intended. I think tone and reasoning are extremely important in this situation because if handled in the wrong way, Peter may take Mary's feelings in the wrong way and take the situation in the way that Mary is being too sensitive and wanting Peter to take on less things in his life and spend it with her instead. However, Mary also has to realize that she has to find the line between being too sensitive and actually justifying her emotions. If she is able to convey that she understands that he is busy with his commitments but asks that he put aside 5 minutes at the end of the day to catch up and say good night to each other with him understanding that she is only trying to help their relationship, it will hopefully end well for the both of them. (Compromise always works well!)

What's your opinion? Do you agree or disagree with my handling of the situation? Have you been through this before?

Did You Know About This??

Today I bring you some more shockers about dating and relationships!

Some not so shocking but interesting data:
1) Couples usually wait around 6-8 dates until they are both willing to enter into a monogamous and exclusive relationship. I agree with this. However, people do enter into relationships within maybe 2 dates but each person rolls their own way, right? I can completely agree that this seems average though.
2) The most common time for a break-up of a relationship is around 3-5 months. I also agree with this. A good amount of relationships end up being over after the "honeymoon period" where one person in the relationship may start getting annoyed with the other's habits that they may have glossed over before. There are also other reasons of course.
3) 92% of single parents would rather date other single parents instead of singles. Honestly, if I was a single parent, I would also want to date another single parent. I just feel like the other person would understand what I have been through or am going through. There's also always that chance that if the person I was dating, hadn't mentioned that they did not want or like children. There is no future in that and ends up being a waste of time for the both of you.

Here comes the shockers:
1) 33% of online daters form a relationship, 33% do not end up in a relationship and 33% end up giving up. Those numbers made my eyes open wide... also the fact that all the numbers are 33%. However, those numbers also seem plausible as well. It makes me sad that some people could end up with nothing though.
2) There are 95.9 million unmarried people in the United States. 47% of that 95.9 million are men and 53% are women. Nothing to say except that 95.9 million is a whole lot of people.
3) If you want to create an instant link with a date, say his or her name at least twice in the conversation. It will show that you are paying attention to your date and flatters the other person.
4) HOT DEBATE: What is the appropriate time to call after you meet someone? It is usually 2-4 days but does not go beyond 4-5 days. However, calling too soon can seem desperate but calling too late can seem like you're playing a game.

What do you think? I honestly thought the factual data was interesting but found it relatively true and not-so-shocking. I also found the shockers actually surprising. I agree that #4 is a hot debate between people though... I personally prefer for a man to call me sooner than later but to each their own right?

We're Back & Better Than Ever!

Hello my Blogspot people!

For your enjoyment, we will be having this blog up as well as our blog on our website (<-- click to go there!). There will be different reading material on each one so visit both to learn! ;)

To welcome you back, I just wanted to ask: did you know? I learned some interesting facts from the Internet about dating and relationships so I'm going to share them!

1) The most common time for a relationship to break up is between 3 to 5 months. Not too surprising to me honestly... from my experience, a good number of couples end up breaking it off after their "honeymoon phase" slowly dwindles down.
2) MSNBC.com and Elle Magazine collaborated on a survey and discovered that more than 31% of men confessed to breaking it off with an overweight partner. This compared to 12% of women that confessed to doing the same thing... a bit shocking but definitely an shake of my head for me. Appearances do have power in the relationship.
3) Wear blue! If a man cannot decide what to wear when going on a date, wear blue if in doubt. Studies have shown that women are attracted to men that wear blue. I love blue so it works in my favor! Blue is also an attractive color for both men and women, albeit not the only color.
4) A matchmaker in Manhattan charges $20,000 as a starter. If the match is successful and ends up in marriage, a bonus is expected. What?! A good chunk of people make less than that a year... reminds me of the millionaire matchmaker though.
5) Dating was started from a courtship ritual where young women entertained male callers under a chaperone's watch during the 20th century. Later on by the 1960s to 1970s, dating was replaced by "hooking up", considering the standard/socially acceptable age for marriage started increasing. It sounds a bit sleazy to me but I also appreciate the fact that women were finally given the right of marrying whenever they wanted to, rather than at 16 years old like back in the past.

So did some facts shock you? I can tell you that I learned a couple of new things from this!

HAPPY LAUNCH DAY!

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Since we have officially launched, I'll be writing at the blog on that website. Just go visit the website and click on the "Blog" tab to read my ramblings on relationships. Thanks for being readers of this blog and I hope you continue to do so. :)

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What are some turn-offs and turn-ons of pursuing a possible relationship with someone?

I know some people are picky about what type of person they want to get involved with. There’s someone looking for a quick, no strings attached hookup. There’s another person who wants to have a boyfriend but not even trying to look ahead to the distant future. Then there’s another person who wants to find true love and can’t wait to start thinking about the future, what house to live in, and how many children to have.

What are some turn-ons and turn-offs that you have from approaching somebody? Looking online, some top female turn-ons* are: 1) a man who can make you feel like a woman (respect is a big turn-on- a man who can respect a woman and appreciate her for who she is), 2) a man who is not afraid to take charge (mental, physical or spiritual strength), 3) a successful man (needs to be able to support himself and his family; ambitious, passionate and confident!), 4) a man with a brain, a sense of humor and can hold a conversation (smart, funny, intellectually challenging!). Some top male turn-ons** are: 1) women who leave something to the imagination (women who maintain a certain degree class are more attractive than women who bare and share everything), 2) has a strong sense of self-esteem (women who can think for herself, believe in herself and has the confidence to speak her mind), 3) loves her body (confidence! Men love a woman who appreciate what she has and isn’t afraid to show it. Embrace your body!), and 4) independent women (self-sufficient, can have fun, not needy. You can live your own life and share with your man!).

Be confident, be smart. Be able to laugh at yourself! Love yourself because you are who you are meant to be. Remember that you do not need someone to feel completed, but you want someone who will love you for who you are and only make life better.

*For more top female turn-ons, visit: http://socyberty.com/sexuality/top-10-female-turn-ons/
**For more top male turn-ons, visit: http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-articles/top-10-male-turn-ons-77.html

TGIF!

TGIF, everyone!

Just a reminder that the contest is still on! Any memory or story will enter you in the contest. Even a short sentence or two is acceptable. Don't be shy! You could be the one to win a special prize. :)

Lately, I've been thinking about high school friends and college friends. Has anyone ever heard that you don't keep your high school friends but you keep the friends you make in college? I know that I mostly hang out with my friends from college now but I still try to keep in touch with a few select high school friends. Of course I see middle school and high school friends around my home city but it's mostly small talk and saying hello when we do bump into each other. One of my friends is leaving to go back to Socal after finishing her last quarter. This made me nostalgic and reminiscing about certain times and places. I do miss college sometimes... just not the schoolwork. The great professors, hanging out with friends, getting swiped into the dining hall, living on your own with roommates/housemates... Good times!

Have you had a significant other in college but had to part ways because of distance and/or location? Story of my life for my last ex... share any stories you have! It's definitely interesting to hear what other people have to say about college relationships... especially mines, haha.

Stay warm and drive safely! Just don't drive as slow as a snail... people get angry quick!

Special present for you!

Wednesday... the dreaded hump day of the week. Along with the rain coming down (not at this moment but for the next few days!), it looks gloomy outside. Just remember the Christmas cheer in the air! :)

Tonight, I have a special surprise for my fellow blog readers.

Whoever leaves a comment with a fun/inspiring/random story about you and a loved one (a significant other) during a rainy day can be qualified to get a free online gift that was exclusively only sent out to our email list! Leave your email and name along with your story. Excited to read what you share! :)

BTW, we'll also have a surprise coming fast at you soon! Get ready for it. ;)

Christmas is coming...

Thanksgiving just passed but it's almost time for my favorite time of the year -- Christmas!! I love the Christmas songs that start playing on the radio (judge me all you want but Justin Bieber's Christmas album from last year is so good), the Starbucks red holiday cups, the cold weather and Christmas cheer in the air. Friends on winter break, annual Christmas traditions, exchanging presents and being thankful every time. Can you believe that it's almost 2013?? Cliche, but I remember the end of 2012 like it was yesterday.

So what's your favorite thing to do during this time of year? Do you have a favorite memory?? For me, one of my favorite memories is this annual Christmas gathering my friends and I have done for the past 3 years, this year being the 4th time. Even though it's different every year, it's nice to have something that has been here so long. Every person has definitely changed- grown up, gone somewhere else for college, hangs out with other people now but we come together this one time of the year and just hang out like we did before years ago. I'm grateful for the people who still attend and I get to see them one of the few times of the year. It's just good fun!

My other favorite thing is when my family and I travel somewhere during Christmas. For the last few years, we've gone to Reno/Tahoe where we usually go skiing or another snow-related activity (we've done dog sledding and snowmobiling!). I'm not sure what we will do this year but Disneyland or Florida have been thrown in the mix!!

One favorite thing I've done with a significant other has just been lie in bed and relax while watching movies on TV. The usual snacks and everything, and then waking up the next morning to exchange gifts. Sounds a little boring but honestly, the simple pleasures in life are sometimes the most rewarding.

So what are some of your stories/memories?? Love and cheer in the air!

Does age matter to you in a relationship?

It's Saturday, yay! :) Hope your weekend got off to a great start so far!

My thought of the day is if age matters to you in a relationship. Some date younger people, some date older people and some only like to date those in a close age bracket. I know some people have limits of how young or how old they will go for but honestly, sometimes you can't help who you love!

So what is YOUR opinion on this? Personally, I wouldn't go for more than 2 years younger than myself, and no more than 4 years older... but if the right man comes along, who says I wouldn't break that rule? Whoever makes you happy, makes you happy. I think that's what matters!

I know other people have their own stories and opinions though so share them in the comments below! :) I'd love to hear them.

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FeaturedDate.com official website launch

TGIF! Happy Friday to everyone! :)

First of all, we at FeaturedDate.com offer our sincere apologies to everyone about our official website not being up yet. We are currently working hard on it because we only want the absolute best for each one of you- our possible clients! ;) There have been a few bumps on the road but please be patient because it will definitely be worth it! We at FeaturedDate cannot wait for you all to see what we've been working on and are bursting with excitement to share!

GUESS WHAT! If you go to our current site (featureddate.com) and sign up on our email list RIGHT NOW, you may just be receiving a surprise soon as well as updates! A huge thank you to everyone already on our email list- we deeply appreciate and are grateful for your patience. We are working hard for you all! :)

Do you think men and women can stay friends after being in an intimate relationship?

Hello readers! :)

I haven't been here for a bit but we at FeaturedDate.com have been working hard on our official launch website. We did say that we were launching last Friday (11/02) but some last minute technicalities came up so we're currently in testing but don't worry- we should be launching ASAP! We only want the very best for you all! :)

So what has been on my mind lately is the question of whether or not YOU think that men and women can stay friends after being in an intimate relationship. I know there are some women and/or men out there that say it's impossible to stay friends with your exes after you break up with them but there are others that claim that they are still friends with their exes.

I do have friends that have stayed good friends with their ex flames but there's way more people that I know that haven't been able to stay friends with their exes. What's your opinion?

My personal experience is that my ex and I have always tried to stay friends with each other but it just didn't work out and we ended up becoming distant while moving on with our own lives. My last relationship wanted us to be friends- until he discovered another girl to move on with and she decided to tell him who he could be friends with. So that's done and over with!

So what do you guys think? I honestly want to believe that there is a possibility of exes staying friends but in my own time, it hasn't worked out so far. Tell me your experiences and opinions!

WE'RE MOVING!

We're officially moving over to another avenue for the blog. I'll try to link it up ASAP! Look out for us!

Don't forget that the official launch for FeaturedDate.com is October 26, 2012!!! Register ASAP for a chance to win a new Apple iPhone 5!!!!!

It's been nice blogging here for a while and thank you for those who commented and read the blog. See you soon!