Busy Bee... But Too Busy for You??

Relationships require hard work! There's always that one couple that seems "perfect" to everyone- doesn't get into arguments, both lead seemingly "perfect" lives, amazing connection!

However, I honestly believe that no matter what, relationships take a lot of hard work to keep one going. Both partners in the relationship need to put in effort, not one over the other. Sometimes one may feel that he or she is giving more in the relationship but that hopefully is not the real case with the relationship. Otherwise, it may be time for a talk.

Another scenario: Peter is currently immersed in his life: school, work, sports, social life. His girlfriend, Mary, currently feels that she is being a bit left out of his life. She understands that Peter is busy and the fact that they both go to different schools doesn't really help because of the short distance. However, she feels that he squeezes her in his schedule whenever it is convenient for him rather than for the both of them. She just wants him to put aside a few minutes at the beginning or end of the day so they can talk about their day or anything... any reassurance that their relationship and connection is still the same. She doesn't know whether or not to express this to him or just to hide her feelings and stick it out. What should she do?

My personal opinion is that she should talk to Peter about it! I have been through this certain experience before and if I had hid my feelings, I might have just bottled it up until one day it burst out and made the situation worse than I intended. I think tone and reasoning are extremely important in this situation because if handled in the wrong way, Peter may take Mary's feelings in the wrong way and take the situation in the way that Mary is being too sensitive and wanting Peter to take on less things in his life and spend it with her instead. However, Mary also has to realize that she has to find the line between being too sensitive and actually justifying her emotions. If she is able to convey that she understands that he is busy with his commitments but asks that he put aside 5 minutes at the end of the day to catch up and say good night to each other with him understanding that she is only trying to help their relationship, it will hopefully end well for the both of them. (Compromise always works well!)

What's your opinion? Do you agree or disagree with my handling of the situation? Have you been through this before?

Did You Know About This??

Today I bring you some more shockers about dating and relationships!

Some not so shocking but interesting data:
1) Couples usually wait around 6-8 dates until they are both willing to enter into a monogamous and exclusive relationship. I agree with this. However, people do enter into relationships within maybe 2 dates but each person rolls their own way, right? I can completely agree that this seems average though.
2) The most common time for a break-up of a relationship is around 3-5 months. I also agree with this. A good amount of relationships end up being over after the "honeymoon period" where one person in the relationship may start getting annoyed with the other's habits that they may have glossed over before. There are also other reasons of course.
3) 92% of single parents would rather date other single parents instead of singles. Honestly, if I was a single parent, I would also want to date another single parent. I just feel like the other person would understand what I have been through or am going through. There's also always that chance that if the person I was dating, hadn't mentioned that they did not want or like children. There is no future in that and ends up being a waste of time for the both of you.

Here comes the shockers:
1) 33% of online daters form a relationship, 33% do not end up in a relationship and 33% end up giving up. Those numbers made my eyes open wide... also the fact that all the numbers are 33%. However, those numbers also seem plausible as well. It makes me sad that some people could end up with nothing though.
2) There are 95.9 million unmarried people in the United States. 47% of that 95.9 million are men and 53% are women. Nothing to say except that 95.9 million is a whole lot of people.
3) If you want to create an instant link with a date, say his or her name at least twice in the conversation. It will show that you are paying attention to your date and flatters the other person.
4) HOT DEBATE: What is the appropriate time to call after you meet someone? It is usually 2-4 days but does not go beyond 4-5 days. However, calling too soon can seem desperate but calling too late can seem like you're playing a game.

What do you think? I honestly thought the factual data was interesting but found it relatively true and not-so-shocking. I also found the shockers actually surprising. I agree that #4 is a hot debate between people though... I personally prefer for a man to call me sooner than later but to each their own right?

What was the most disastrous date you have ever been on?

Did it end up being a complete failure of a date? Or did it end up being hilarious and connect you with the other person? Some dates that are horrible can still end up with two people connecting.. and leaves you with a great story to tell your friends when they ask how you met each other.

Sometimes I think dating is a lost art. In college, it was definitely something I had to make time for- date night. It would mostly be dinner, sometimes a movie too or just hanging out with just each other. I think it's different when you hang out with friends and your significant other compared to just you and your significant other hanging out, if that makes sense. My opinion is that you should leave personal time for yourself, for you and your friends, and for you with your significant other. It's a hard balance, especially if you have classes or work or other obligations. Make time! I know sometimes it's really hard for me personally because there's so much going on and I'm a people pleaser so I want to be able to be there for anyone and everyone.

So what do you think? Have any juicy stories?? I don't have any good stories (no real horrible date stories, sorry!) but I want to hear yours if you have any! :)

Favorite love song

What's your favorite love song? Or any song concerning love, relationships, etc.?

While I drive around, I blast the radio. A few songs that have been playing on the radio (repeatedly... I hear some of them every single day!) have been: Give Your Heart A Break by Demi Lovato, Adorn by Miguel and Let Me Love You by Ne-Yo.

Other songs that I've listened to constantly have been: Tonight (Best You Ever Had) by John Legend and Refill by Elle Varner. Have you guys been hearing these on the radio too?? I swear, sometimes I don't want to hear a song on the radio and switch to another station but it's playing the exact same song! It's crazy...

What are some songs about love that you like to listen to? Are there some songs that you always go back to? Some throwback songs? (I Wanna Dance With Somebody by Whitney Houston is always a classic!)

Leave some songs in the comments section! It's always interesting to find out what type of songs people listen to. Maybe I'll even get to hear some new music! :)

P.S. Are you one of those people who like to blast a certain song when it comes up on the radio and just belt it out? I honestly sing at the top of my lungs sometimes in the car while driving. No shame! When you're feeling it, you go with it!