Wait, what happened?... WHAT?!

Have you ever had that moment in a relationship where something extremely weird/disgusting happened and you were both just horrifingly amazed? Then you either cracked up or it affected your relationship in a bad way.


An example could be that someone may let out a fart while in the process of making love. What do you do? Honestly, I would be a tiny bit embarrassed but if my relationship was truly in the further stages, I would probably end up cracking up into laughter with my partner. (Honestly it's happened before and that's what ended up happening, so no regrets or shame, haha!) I think that stage in the relationship is beautiful when you may end up having a "gross" moment but you both take it in stride, especially if you are both comfortable around each other. You know you are both super comfortable with each other when you are both in the same bathroom doing whatever daily routines you do after waking up or before going to bed.

So have you had any of these moments? It's what I'd call a hilariously fond moment in a past relationship. I would rather look upon these moments with fondness rather than bitterness so these silly moments help! Share your moments and hopefully they remind you of good times. :)

I'm Addicted to You

Addiction is our topic today!

Have you ever had that one partner where you are/were absolutely head-over-heels for? You seem to gravitate to whatever they want, whatever they do, whereever they are. It might sound a bit stalkerish, but you may find that this person is your soulmate. So when does it go too far that you end up spending all your time thinking or being with this partner?

Sometimes one person in a relationship may end up spending all her spare time with her significant other, rather than splitting it amongst her friends and family as well. So how do you approach this issue with your friend that is becoming addicted to his or her significant other? Do you even approach it? Some people honestly give up and would rather let the person live their life, however they choose. Would you hold an intervention of your own? What would you do??

Speaking from experience, I can say that sometimes time does run away with me. I enjoy my time with my significant other because being both your best friend and your partner makes it even more fun to share new or old experiences together. I do have to say that I did notice that I was neglecting my friends more and more but turned that around after a while but instead of it being brought to my attention, they just let me continue on with my life. I can't say I wouldn't do the same either because of my passive-aggressiveness at times but instead of drifting away from each other, I wish that I had done something sooner or they had told me sooner as well. The past is past though but if you have been through a similar experience, I hope you worked it out as well.

So what do you do with a friend who is becoming more addicted to her significant other and not paying attention to other important aspects in life?

Pretty Little Liar

Of course people tell little white lies while in a relationship, to their partner.. but when does it go too far?

Example one: This woman cannot cook at all. By "not at all", I mean she doesn't know how to cook eggs and can barely boil water.. without help. It's entirely stereotypical (but true) that on the first date, you may tell a few white lies to impress your date... so she paints herself as a great cook who loves eating homemade food. So what do you do in the situation where her boyfriend wants a home cooked meal one night as a date? She panics and calls her friend, who really is a great cook, to cook their dinner for her. Problem solved.. until he decides to stay the night and expects breakfast in the morning. Instead of having to have her chef friend over for every home cooked meal in the breakfast/afternoon/evening, she decides to come clean. Her boyfriend, already suspicious of her "great cooking skills", laughs it off because to him, it's not a big lie or a big deal. This scenario ends well.

Example two: This woman does not want kids. She has had no desire in her lifetime to ever want kids. She ends up meeting the man of her dreams but the big difference is that he wants kids- at least 3 of them! She doesn't want to give up her perfect man so she tells the little white lie that she also wants children and believes that maybe if she keeps it up, she'll actually want kids in the future. However, her mind and heart haven't changed in the next few months. The two are starting to talk about marriage and feeling guilty, she decides to come clean. He is angry and confused. They end up breaking up and this situation ends up in the worst outcome category.

There are the acceptable white lies but when does a white lie become an unacceptable lies? I'd advise for you just to stay truthful because that's when it is the least messiest. But to each their own! However, remember that relationships thrive on honesty, communication and trust.

The Perfect Gift

What is the appropriate gift for your significant other? Sometimes it is extremely hard for me to pick out a present for just my friend let alone my significant other! 

Personally I try to strategize. I would rather get my partner something that would mean a lot to him, even better if it means a lot to both of us. For example, I made a “care package” kind of thing for an ex for his Christmas present. It consisted of a sweater that he wanted (when I asked him to choose between three choices, haha), a specialized water bottle that he mentioned in passing that he liked, a heartfelt written card, and other items that were personal and meant something to both of us. He loved it and that in return, made me feel great about it! Sometimes, giving is even better than receiving! 

My opinion is that the more personal and thoughtful the gift is, the more that your partner will actually love it. Even something small but carefully thought out is better than something expensive bought last minute with no thought behind it. I would rather receive the gift and immediately think, “wow, _____ knows me so well!” and see the effort that my significant other put behind it. 

Some time and effort may be needed but it will be worth seeing the shocked, happy, surprised expressions on your partner’s face when he or she opens your present!

Meeting the Friends

You are currently in a serious and committed relationship with your partner. Your friends have wanted to meet him since you've been raving about your wonderful significant other. So when is the appropriate time to introduce him to your friends?

Your friends’ impressions may or may not be important to you but either way, they will end up having an opinion about him. Whether or not they tell you, or if you care about their opinions, if you want the result to be great, here’s some tips!

Make sure that your significant other is comfortable to meet your friends. If he or she feels unprepared and nervous, your friends may pick up on that and it may end up going in either a good or bad direction. Your significant other may feel like they have to impress your friends and end up acting completely different than the person he or she actually is. Therefore, have your significant other and your friends meet somewhere neutral and comfortable. You could possibly go for drinks after dinner with your significant other. Give some tips to your significant other. Maybe one friend has a sensitive topic that your partner should not bring up- let him know before the night may end up badly! 

Have you had any good or bad experiences while introducing your partner to your friends? Share them along with your tips!

Bumping into your Ex.. Now What?

Have you ever run into your ex-significant other unexpectedly? It's definitely happened to me! What do you end up doing in that split moment?

When it has happened to me, it caught me off-guard. Once a relationship ends, I do not end up on talking terms with my ex-relationships. My last relationship ended on an okay note but something happened that made it horrible and that ended on bad terms due to insecurities with his new fling. I ended up running into him at a party in our college town but we didn’t end up speaking to each other. It was a bit awkward and I literally saw him walk in, see me, turned around trying to avoid me, and ended up walking really quickly past me. I expected nothing less but I didn’t know what else to do either!

So what would you advise someone to do if they run into their ex-relationship? My personal advice: keep it classy, cool and short. There’s no better revenge than seeming cool, calm and collected when running into your ex-relationship! Even if you are boiling with anger at seeing your ex-relationship on a date with another person or full of awkwardness, keep it inside and don’t lose your cool!