Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Break Up to Make Up

When it comes to sex, there are a variety of scenarios and visions that may come to mind. With sex, people usually have a preference for this work of art, especially when you are physically attracted to someone, in a relationship or both. One of the popular topics on this physical notion is make up sex vs. break up sex. Having two different meanings and similar actions, they are two of the most popular and disputable versions of sex.

If the chemistry between two people is strong, the physical attraction can be looked upon as an electrifying movement. Make up sex can arouse from a disagreement, dispute or miscommunication between a couple but most would say it is a hot and heavy form of sex. In a unique way, the passion behind the disagreement draws you closer,  bringing the inner essence of both parties to a forefront. This action allows the gates of emotion to take over. Emotions are heightened to such a great level, when they are implied and placed in tune with the person you love, make-up sex or a passionate love session awaits you. Unlike break-up sex, more than likely you are not breaking up with a person over a disagreement or an argument.

The approach to break-up sex is slightly different. In this form of sex there can be numerous reasons for the different actions taking place. Some people say break-up sex is looked upon as a trap, a lasting memory or just the right thing to do at the moment. Before breaking up, the sex that takes place is a result of a last resort or option left between a failing relationship. Since the relationship itself is not working out, the next best thing your emotions are connected to may be the physical attributes of the relationship. Unlike make-up sex once you declare a break-up, there is no relationship to come back to unless there is a change of heart during the act of break-up sex. Even with a change of heart the relationship may not be in the strongest state because the lasting impression that is left is solely based on a heightened physical encounter.

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Cocktails or More

Many things can happen on the first date. Rather good or bad, a first date can determine the next step you will take with a person.

When a first date goes wrong it can leave a bad impression, disappointment and an individual uninterested in the other person.
Wanting to deal with that person on different levels intimately, exclusively or personally, can quickly diminish, but what happens if things go well.
On the other side of the spectrum, a good impression can be everything and more. If the first date  goes exceptionally well and is better than what’s expected, what actions will prevail after?
Do you go back to your place, their place or maybe even for a cocktail. How comfortable have you been after a first date and what are your limits? Is there a kiss, a number exchange or a full on sexcapade?
When the chemistry is high and different connections are there, more than likely you will want to see that person again.
What actions should a person take after a great first date and is there a limit?

Monday, April 15, 2013

How Far is Too Far? What's Your Limit?

You have seen those relationships or have been these types of relationships... those relationships where you see one partner pushing the other partner's buttons. Sometimes both persons in a relationship are extremely passionate/stubborn and fight for what they believe in aka their opinion. Sometimes one person may be purposely challenging their partner more than what is necessary but it may end disastrously.

So how far is too far? What is your limit? How much is going to be too much... in a past relationship, an ex and I were both very stubborn people. You know those situations where you know you are absolutely correct but the other person thinks that they are absolutely correct as well? That was the kind of situation I was stuck in many times. However, I did realize at times where it's not worth the argument. You should want to say sorry and end the argument because you love your partner and you still respect whatever choices and decisions they choose to make.

But sometimes these friendly debates may turn into overbearing arguments which lead into disaster. So what do you do when you know you are about to reach your limit? What's your solution? What do you choose to do? Has it ever blown up in your face? Have you learned anything from past experiences? What to do, what to do...

Friday, April 12, 2013

Wait, what happened?... WHAT?!

Have you ever had that moment in a relationship where something extremely weird/disgusting happened and you were both just horrifingly amazed? Then you either cracked up or it affected your relationship in a bad way.

An example could be that someone may let out a fart while in the process of making love. What do you do? Honestly, I would be a tiny bit embarrassed but if my relationship was truly in the further stages, I would probably end up cracking up into laughter with my partner. (Honestly it's happened before and that's what ended up happening, so no regrets or shame, haha!) I think that stage in the relationship is beautiful when you may end up having a "gross" moment but you both take it in stride, especially if you are both comfortable around each other. You know you are both super comfortable with each other when you are both in the same bathroom doing whatever daily routines you do after waking up or before going to bed.

So have you had any of these moments? It's what I'd call a hilariously fond moment in a past relationship. I would rather look upon these moments with fondness rather than bitterness so these silly moments help! Share your moments and hopefully they remind you of good times. :)

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

I'm Addicted to You

Addiction is our topic today!

Have you ever had that one partner where you are/were absolutely head-over-heels for? You seem to gravitate to whatever they want, whatever they do, whereever they are. It might sound a bit stalkerish, but you may find that this person is your soulmate. So when does it go too far that you end up spending all your time thinking or being with this partner?

Sometimes one person in a relationship may end up spending all her spare time with her significant other, rather than splitting it amongst her friends and family as well. So how do you approach this issue with your friend that is becoming addicted to his or her significant other? Do you even approach it? Some people honestly give up and would rather let the person live their life, however they choose. Would you hold an intervention of your own? What would you do??

Speaking from experience, I can say that sometimes time does run away with me. I enjoy my time with my significant other because being both your best friend and your partner makes it even more fun to share new or old experiences together. I do have to say that I did notice that I was neglecting my friends more and more but turned that around after a while but instead of it being brought to my attention, they just let me continue on with my life. I can't say I wouldn't do the same either because of my passive-aggressiveness at times but instead of drifting away from each other, I wish that I had done something sooner or they had told me sooner as well. The past is past though but if you have been through a similar experience, I hope you worked it out as well.

So what do you do with a friend who is becoming more addicted to her significant other and not paying attention to other important aspects in life?

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Pretty Little Liar

Of course people tell little white lies while in a relationship, to their partner.. but when does it go too far?

Example one: This woman cannot cook at all. By "not at all", I mean she doesn't know how to cook eggs and can barely boil water.. without help. It's entirely stereotypical (but true) that on the first date, you may tell a few white lies to impress your date... so she paints herself as a great cook who loves eating homemade food. So what do you do in the situation where her boyfriend wants a home cooked meal one night as a date? She panics and calls her friend, who really is a great cook, to cook their dinner for her. Problem solved.. until he decides to stay the night and expects breakfast in the morning. Instead of having to have her chef friend over for every home cooked meal in the breakfast/afternoon/evening, she decides to come clean. Her boyfriend, already suspicious of her "great cooking skills", laughs it off because to him, it's not a big lie or a big deal. This scenario ends well.

Example two: This woman does not want kids. She has had no desire in her lifetime to ever want kids. She ends up meeting the man of her dreams but the big difference is that he wants kids- at least 3 of them! She doesn't want to give up her perfect man so she tells the little white lie that she also wants children and believes that maybe if she keeps it up, she'll actually want kids in the future. However, her mind and heart haven't changed in the next few months. The two are starting to talk about marriage and feeling guilty, she decides to come clean. He is angry and confused. They end up breaking up and this situation ends up in the worst outcome category.

There are the acceptable white lies but when does a white lie become an unacceptable lies? I'd advise for you just to stay truthful because that's when it is the least messiest. But to each their own! However, remember that relationships thrive on honesty, communication and trust.